Holiday Time-Sharing

This is the time of year that many families look forward to.  We are coming into peak holiday time with peak sweets and delicious treats to go along.  For some, however, it is a time full of stress and discomfort.

This is especially true of little ones who are going through the break up of their family unit.  If you are the parent of a minor child and you are going through difficult times this holiday season try to maintain a few critical musts.

You must keep your emotions in check.  It is very painful for a child to witness the pain that you are in.  It hurts them as much as it hurts you.

You must keep some semblance of routine and structure to the holiday season.  Please don’t try to erase the last ten years of your child’s memories of holidays by immediately beginning a whole new tradition.  The time for that is next year.  Keep some pieces of the old tradition before you move on.

You must reassure your child that different does not mean worse and that the holidays are going to be a great time, even if they are new and different.

We don’t envy your position going through these struggles at any time of year, but we do want you to know that if you keep it together for the sake of your kids during this brutally difficult time, they’ll be more likely to handle tough adversity in the same manner as they mature.

— Lastly, be sure to reach out to close friends, church members, and family during this time.  This is the season of giving and people do genuinely love helping others, even if it’s only to lend an ear.